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Most people I know who have suffered a loss of love tend look, as you would expect, like people in states of deep sadness and grief.
Many people I know who have suffered a loss of D/s tend to look like their normal selves – only shellshocked.
Their expressions seem oddly wooden. Their response times lag a little bit behind what would be normal for them. They sometimes look and act, to put it bluntly, almost like people with PTSD.
I’m not speaking, here, of people who have necessarily suffered abuse. I’m just speaking of people who’ve lost some sort of powerful D/s connection.
I see those people at events, at home, in social settings, and they often seem much like themselves – only they don’t smile so much, they don’t laugh so easily, and when I look at them – when I look at myself – that appearance is curiously hollow.
Why is that? Why not ordinary grief? Why this numbed uncertainty?